The subject popped up in conversation the other day I hanged out with my clique and one of our housemates had just survived another break-up. She spent most of her salary and savings on him and became financially troubled afterwards. She topped up his hand phone talk time credit regularly, bought him a brand new laptop, spent a few bucks for his hobby, let him used her car even without driving license, paid every lunch or dinner they had and many other things that left her broke before the pay day.
“If you feel that it’s worth to spend your money for, why not then?” a friend implied, with others seemed to casually agree with her. I might have concured to that, until she added, “I wouldn’t mind spending every single penny left in my savings for him. People might think that I am crazy, but money isn’t everything. At least he made me happy.”
I couldn’t agree more.
Well, I thought that she’s right for the reason that he temporarily made her happy but what happened if the relationship failed? He might have gone somewhere into the comfort of someone else’s arm, with her money in his wallet. It is painful enough to become single and broken hearted, believe me.
Of course when you are dating someone, it is necessary to spend a few bucks for some good times around. Catch great movies, fine dining, flowers, anniversaries, Valentine’s Day, telephone bills and much more of this and that, your spending per month could possibly cover for three months expenses if you are single. I’d rather referred it as an investment to keep a relationship on the go. Big or small your spending is, depends on how serious your commitment towards the relationship.
But that’s not the case here. What we talked about was not merely of a normal relationship basis; it was about how some people took advantages in the name of love because there will always be other people who were willing to pay for whatever the price was. I’ve seen some of my friends went through the same thing, how they suffered momentarily from the break-ups and recovered to find another.
Another friend interrupted, “Sometimes, it isn’t just about love. It’s hard to find one especially when you started to develop wrinkles on your face but your taste on young guys is still the same. We are out of options, out of time. That’s the problem. I feel more to a need of someone to keep me company, rather than sleeping alone at night and feeling bad about being single."
At least she made her point out. I guessed that money could buy almost anything these days. Just name the price. As long as you are willing to pay, you might even bargain love at special price. If love is something that we can easily get from the shelf of a convenience store, is it really love in the first place?
She simply replied, “I know that deep, deep inside his heart, he loved me. You guys might not see or feel it, but I did. And I feel good to think about it.”
“If you feel that it’s worth to spend your money for, why not then?” a friend implied, with others seemed to casually agree with her. I might have concured to that, until she added, “I wouldn’t mind spending every single penny left in my savings for him. People might think that I am crazy, but money isn’t everything. At least he made me happy.”
I couldn’t agree more.
Well, I thought that she’s right for the reason that he temporarily made her happy but what happened if the relationship failed? He might have gone somewhere into the comfort of someone else’s arm, with her money in his wallet. It is painful enough to become single and broken hearted, believe me.
Of course when you are dating someone, it is necessary to spend a few bucks for some good times around. Catch great movies, fine dining, flowers, anniversaries, Valentine’s Day, telephone bills and much more of this and that, your spending per month could possibly cover for three months expenses if you are single. I’d rather referred it as an investment to keep a relationship on the go. Big or small your spending is, depends on how serious your commitment towards the relationship.
But that’s not the case here. What we talked about was not merely of a normal relationship basis; it was about how some people took advantages in the name of love because there will always be other people who were willing to pay for whatever the price was. I’ve seen some of my friends went through the same thing, how they suffered momentarily from the break-ups and recovered to find another.
Another friend interrupted, “Sometimes, it isn’t just about love. It’s hard to find one especially when you started to develop wrinkles on your face but your taste on young guys is still the same. We are out of options, out of time. That’s the problem. I feel more to a need of someone to keep me company, rather than sleeping alone at night and feeling bad about being single."
At least she made her point out. I guessed that money could buy almost anything these days. Just name the price. As long as you are willing to pay, you might even bargain love at special price. If love is something that we can easily get from the shelf of a convenience store, is it really love in the first place?
She simply replied, “I know that deep, deep inside his heart, he loved me. You guys might not see or feel it, but I did. And I feel good to think about it.”
Put aside principle, this is a question of heart. Every person deserves to live a happy life, no matter how they achieve it. Love has different definition for each person and we ought to have it, in our own way.
